Trust high waisted-pants to give you that elegant look…

Being a student is more than just attending classes, submitting assignments and so forth. You get to meet different people from diverse backgrounds with different styles and in different ages. The reality is: We can’t be all in one category in terms of style or fashion and this article is not about which style is better than the other but for me at the moment, high waisted-pants are ‘thee’ business.

Whether in jeans or leggings, these pants go well with almost everything. A lady in them looks very sophisticated and honestly when wearing them, you won’t have to worry about pulling them up when getting out of a taxi (if you’re using one), no one will have to see your ‘line’ because of the pants hanging.

One can show a bit of flesh by wearing them with crop, peplum and tank tops or actually tucking the shirt in and can never go wrong with this style anywhere in the world. The most beautiful thing about them is that they make you look a bit slimmer and taller and you can actually get away with those rolls around waist by looking like a ‘thick’ woman rather than a big one, because let’s face it…looking fat in clothes is so not part of any woman’s plan when going out, that's why we always ask our boyfriends that one annoying question, "Do i look fat in this?"

I’ve seen girls around Long Street, Cavendish, Canal Walk etc and and yes, they look rather fashionable in them and I’ve also noticed that they go well with any type of shoe, be it platform heels, wedges or even pumps. I’m proud to say that I myself, own a few of them but very sad at the same time because I don’t have my personal favourite in my wardrobe: Pleather High-wasted pants.

Locally, I’ve seen the ever-so gorgeous Minenhle Dlamini and the SABC 1’s Live Amp Co-presenters Luthando Shosha and Pearl Thusi rocking them and internationally Kanye West’s fiancee Kim Kardashian and ‘Riri’ are my queens. I know we’re fast approaching summer and Cape Town weather temperatures are going to be very high in the next couple of months but nothing’s stopping anyone to do high-wasted shorts.

I mean it doesn’t really matter whether you’re thick or skinny, short or tall because anything high-wasted looks good in women; we have great bodies so why not show them off and feel good about it? What do we have to lose really? I’m planning to get myself a few very soon. :)

Um sometimes it’s just an infatuation…

So the dude you’ve been eyeing on campus or at work FINALLY asks you out on a date. You’re thrilled and anxious at the same time because this is something that you’ve always desired…wait did I really say that? Well, I happen to know at least 5 types of crush; Adult crush, Office crush, Twitter crush, Celebrity crush and the one i'm going to focus on right now; the REAL life crush.

Having a crush is one of the most aching and exhilarating things a girl experiences in her lifetime. You keep on bumping into this guy, you steal a glance at him and he looks your way and when your eyes meet you both smile and swiftly look away. Hahaha Isn't it a great feeling though?

On the next day, you see him again, he greets you in ‘that’ voice and he’s walking right in front of you as he starts preening himself and looking at you by the corner of his eye and you’re thinking to yourself, “haha! I’ve got this.” You get so excited that you feel like the world is turning against you when you bump into him in the following week and he ignores you so hard that you even start to doubt your own existence.

That’s when you start trying to get his attention by doing random stuff. After sharing with ‘tweeps’ the craziest things we do to get our crushes’ attention, I realised that people would do anything to get their crushes attention and everyone can be a Personal Investigator and I'm not here to judge.

But what happens when he finally asks you out?  You go out on a date, get to know each other and as time goes by you realise that yes, he’s cool and all that but as you keep on going out with him, you don’t find the fun that you thought you’d find anymore.

What causes this? Ncumisa Siko (23) admitted that too much expectations and high hopes can actually cause this. “When you have a crush on someone you don’t really know, you imagine things that you would like to do with him and when he doesn’t fulfil your expectations, you start to lose interest,” she chuckled.

It’s all fun and games hey? You get up in the morning heading to campus or office knowing that you’re going to see your ‘special someone’ and feel all those butterflies in your tummy and be all jittery when you see him. Yes, some crushes do lead to a ‘real thing’, some people end up dating and marrying each other but sadly, some aren’t like that.

Not all crushes ought to be pursued, some are actually meant to just remain crushes, forever. I know it’s kind of harsh for me to say this but sometimes it happens that the person you’re crushing on isn’t the ‘right guy’ and he’s going to bore you to death once you get to know him or hurt you(you don't want that now, do you?) or one of you is seeing someone or even married which is inappropriate or he’s just way out of your league and maybe "not that into you" sorry.

There’s no expert in heart-related issues but if you have a crush, I’d say enjoy while it last. I mean, It's fun .*giggles*

Being a young woman...

Hitting the juncture that shapes up the inner you in your glamorous-self…

So this other day, I’m roaming around my department on campus and bump into this rather petite, elegant “Yellow-bone chick” in skinny jeans and high heels, looking so tangled and in haste she asks me for directions into one of the classes.

Well, obviously I don’t know everyone in my department but I could tell that she was new and very nervous. With God’s Grace, our paths crossed again later that day and we officially met and honestly I’d say we just “clicked” and she told me she was there for a Selection Test for her anticipated course that she would like to do next year.

Amanda is her name and yes, she and I  shared a very, deep and thought-provoking conversation which touched the stage that we are in at the moment: Young Adult Phase, well specifically being a young woman.

It’s one of the hardest yet fascinating phases in one’s journey. It’s where one stops depending on parents for almost everything, completes her studies and begins to plan for future and that includes career and family.

“I feel like I’m under so much pressure, I hustle for almost everything and there are always those friends who seem to be progressing smoother and faster than me,” she says in a rather stern face. I guess it’s a norm; people around you seem to be moving forward, peers getting engaged and some getting married, starting families with their careers flourishing slickly. I walked my "newly found friend" to the taxi, came back to my room with tons of questions.

You feel like you want to get out there and do marvellous things for yourself like everyone else and yes you’re trying by all means but at the same time you feel like you’re a bit behind, well maybe your love life isn’t as great as your best friend’s or the job you’re currently doing isn’t what you thought it would be and you wonder why? Where did you go wrong?

Trying to stay healthy is part of your game plan and weight problems are part of the obstacles you come across daily.You're trying to break into the “real” world, building your brand, on the other hand you're losing friends and meeting new ones, your whole life is just that busy.

You hit the club with your girls and booze like there’s no tomorrow, hook ups now and then but STILL, that inner voice telling you that something is missing doesn’t seem to fade away and the funny thing is that you don’t know what is it exactly because it happens even if you‘re seeing someone.

Reaching the young adult stage is more than just having fun, this where you learn to make responsible decisions and have fun while you’re at it. It’s where you need to start thinking hard because the challenges you meet shape up the person you will be after, say…ten years from now.

I’m not sure what the future holds for me at the moment, but I’ve decided to just go with the flow, make those mistakes but learn from them because, regretting myself won't help me to just undo them...they're part of this phase, right?