Um sometimes it’s just an infatuation…

So the dude you’ve been eyeing on campus or at work FINALLY asks you out on a date. You’re thrilled and anxious at the same time because this is something that you’ve always desired…wait did I really say that? Well, I happen to know at least 5 types of crush; Adult crush, Office crush, Twitter crush, Celebrity crush and the one i'm going to focus on right now; the REAL life crush.

Having a crush is one of the most aching and exhilarating things a girl experiences in her lifetime. You keep on bumping into this guy, you steal a glance at him and he looks your way and when your eyes meet you both smile and swiftly look away. Hahaha Isn't it a great feeling though?

On the next day, you see him again, he greets you in ‘that’ voice and he’s walking right in front of you as he starts preening himself and looking at you by the corner of his eye and you’re thinking to yourself, “haha! I’ve got this.” You get so excited that you feel like the world is turning against you when you bump into him in the following week and he ignores you so hard that you even start to doubt your own existence.

That’s when you start trying to get his attention by doing random stuff. After sharing with ‘tweeps’ the craziest things we do to get our crushes’ attention, I realised that people would do anything to get their crushes attention and everyone can be a Personal Investigator and I'm not here to judge.

But what happens when he finally asks you out?  You go out on a date, get to know each other and as time goes by you realise that yes, he’s cool and all that but as you keep on going out with him, you don’t find the fun that you thought you’d find anymore.

What causes this? Ncumisa Siko (23) admitted that too much expectations and high hopes can actually cause this. “When you have a crush on someone you don’t really know, you imagine things that you would like to do with him and when he doesn’t fulfil your expectations, you start to lose interest,” she chuckled.

It’s all fun and games hey? You get up in the morning heading to campus or office knowing that you’re going to see your ‘special someone’ and feel all those butterflies in your tummy and be all jittery when you see him. Yes, some crushes do lead to a ‘real thing’, some people end up dating and marrying each other but sadly, some aren’t like that.

Not all crushes ought to be pursued, some are actually meant to just remain crushes, forever. I know it’s kind of harsh for me to say this but sometimes it happens that the person you’re crushing on isn’t the ‘right guy’ and he’s going to bore you to death once you get to know him or hurt you(you don't want that now, do you?) or one of you is seeing someone or even married which is inappropriate or he’s just way out of your league and maybe "not that into you" sorry.

There’s no expert in heart-related issues but if you have a crush, I’d say enjoy while it last. I mean, It's fun .*giggles*