Being a young woman...

Hitting the juncture that shapes up the inner you in your glamorous-self…

So this other day, I’m roaming around my department on campus and bump into this rather petite, elegant “Yellow-bone chick” in skinny jeans and high heels, looking so tangled and in haste she asks me for directions into one of the classes.

Well, obviously I don’t know everyone in my department but I could tell that she was new and very nervous. With God’s Grace, our paths crossed again later that day and we officially met and honestly I’d say we just “clicked” and she told me she was there for a Selection Test for her anticipated course that she would like to do next year.

Amanda is her name and yes, she and I  shared a very, deep and thought-provoking conversation which touched the stage that we are in at the moment: Young Adult Phase, well specifically being a young woman.

It’s one of the hardest yet fascinating phases in one’s journey. It’s where one stops depending on parents for almost everything, completes her studies and begins to plan for future and that includes career and family.

“I feel like I’m under so much pressure, I hustle for almost everything and there are always those friends who seem to be progressing smoother and faster than me,” she says in a rather stern face. I guess it’s a norm; people around you seem to be moving forward, peers getting engaged and some getting married, starting families with their careers flourishing slickly. I walked my "newly found friend" to the taxi, came back to my room with tons of questions.

You feel like you want to get out there and do marvellous things for yourself like everyone else and yes you’re trying by all means but at the same time you feel like you’re a bit behind, well maybe your love life isn’t as great as your best friend’s or the job you’re currently doing isn’t what you thought it would be and you wonder why? Where did you go wrong?

Trying to stay healthy is part of your game plan and weight problems are part of the obstacles you come across daily.You're trying to break into the “real” world, building your brand, on the other hand you're losing friends and meeting new ones, your whole life is just that busy.

You hit the club with your girls and booze like there’s no tomorrow, hook ups now and then but STILL, that inner voice telling you that something is missing doesn’t seem to fade away and the funny thing is that you don’t know what is it exactly because it happens even if you‘re seeing someone.

Reaching the young adult stage is more than just having fun, this where you learn to make responsible decisions and have fun while you’re at it. It’s where you need to start thinking hard because the challenges you meet shape up the person you will be after, say…ten years from now.

I’m not sure what the future holds for me at the moment, but I’ve decided to just go with the flow, make those mistakes but learn from them because, regretting myself won't help me to just undo them...they're part of this phase, right?